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A lot of you may be unaware that the years, 2010 and 2011, had been the most difficult period for me and my family. We were in the face of adversity brought about by my father’s sudden resignation with no definite employer to fall back into. Those were the days when money was certainly an issue. It came to a point when we had to sell some of our properties because we were running out of resources. Just thinking about it makes me cringe to this day. We sure learned a lot of things from that tough experience.

As the current year comes to a close, let me share with you the highlights of my year. This will be a lengthy post, so please bear with me…

January

The last quarter of 2011 had been full of good news; two of which are the following: I got engaged to my three-year boyfriend and Dad was offered a new job. Given this premise, my family and I welcomed the new year with a bang! It’s only been two months since my Dad went back to work, but the mere thought of being able to celebrate Christmas and New Year with a little celebration was already a big deal.

As if the holidays weren’t enough festivities, my parents decided to commemorate their 26th wedding anniversary in a buffet dinner with the whole family. We were in high spirits as we look forward to a new year, a new beginning.

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February

This month marked the birth of http://www.gorjaeous.com. I had this hosted by another company then. Like most people, I had my blogs posted in different platforms, thus the first few entries were cross-posts from those sites.

It was a dream come true to finally have my official website where I can put into writing whatever comes to mind.

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March

Tita Marie, my favorite aunt, came home after five years. I last saw her at my grandmother’s interment in August 2007. It was a quick trip, but she got to spend time with my grandfather, Tatay Gavino, who was becoming weaker each passing day.

March meant so much to my family because my brother, Roi, graduated from college on this month. Their class were the first to experience the investiture ceremony within the university campus.

My friend, Nica, introduced Micah and I to The Hunger Games trilogy which we obsessed over with for weeks.

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April

Tatay Gavino was in and out of the hospital due to his health complications. Mom’s siblings—Tita Edna, Ninong Ady, and Tita Beng—came home to assist her in taking care of my grandfather and his hospital bills.

May

Tatay Gavino passed away at the age of 83. He peacefully died in his bed while everyone, except his caregiver, was not home. All except one of Mom’s siblings flew back in Manila in a matter of weeks to pay their last respects to their father.

It was also during this when I had been suspected for having kidney stones. After a few medications and laboratory procedures, this was ruled out. Thank God.

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June and July

There’s not much to share on these months, except I was able to read more again with my friends’ encouragement. It was also the time when I finally gave in to reading eBooks conveniently from my mobile phone.

August

Ah, this was the time when I woke up to floodwater in our street. There was no tropical cyclone at that time, and the heavy rain-pour was brought by the southwest monsoon, but it caused a lot of inconvenience to most families in the city.

In other news, my college friends and I gave our friend, Rivka (Pardz), her third bridal shower. We were pressed for time since her wedding was in two weeks, so we held it a our favorite coffee shop in Makati. It wasn’t the typical bridal shower most people have in mind, but we definitely had fun.

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September

There are two eventful days in this month: one of my friends’ wedding and my family’s surprise birthday party for Mom (and Dad).

This was also the time when I finally decided to move back to WordPress as my new home. Never will I regret doing so.

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October

The month of October reminded me that Miggy and I were already a year engaged. Meaning to say, we were a few weeks away from beginning the 365-day countdown to our Big Day.

My friends and I got involved in the 30-Day Blogging Challenge in October. For the first time, I was able to complete the challenge. Oh, and if I may add, I gained a lot of followers/friends from this experience!

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November

Ah, my birth-month. I have mixed feelings for November. I celebrated my birthday with my family as usual. Well, all I did during this month was read as many books I can. This is the first in a long time that I’ve read so much in a month, and tried to write reviews for each book I finished.

Aside from my birthday, the highlight of this month is our spontaneous day trip to Enchanted Kingdom with my brother and his high school friends.

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December

After a year and two months, Miggy returned to Manila. His family—parents and siblings—are all in the US now, but he chose to spend Christmas and New Year here with me and my family. While everyone’s busy with the holiday season, we were running around like headless chickens, doing wedding-related stuff.

Speaking of wedding, my other college friend got married on this month, too. One can’t have enough festivities in December, don’t you think?

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The year, 2012, had been a roller-coaster ride for me and my family. There may have been setbacks in one or two occasions, but we’re still lucky to have been blessed with good things along the way. This may not be the case for most people, but it’s always better to look on the brighter side of things. If anything, I wish that I welcome an even better year not only for myself, but for each of my friends and loved ones.

So, how did 2012 treat you? 

P.S. I have a couple of backblogs (backlog blogs) for December since Miggy arrived. I will find time to get my hands on them soon!

I think I aged overnight. No, seriously. A week after falling ill, my fiancé arrived in Manila. Miggy landed at 0330H, and I was compelled to pick him up at the airport at an ungodly hour. I should have slept earlier the night before, but I pulled an all-nighter playing Bubble Shooter in my brother’s Android phone. I know, right? I think it was almost two o’clock when I eventually fell asleep, but woke up an hour later to this SMS:

“Touchdown Manila!!! Where are you???”

Oh, God.

I knew I had to give him 45 to an hour lead time as he claims his luggage and go through all the fuss at Immigration, so I took my time in getting ready. Apparently, my phone was plagued with five SMS and three missed calls while I was in the shower. Unbelievable. Thirty minutes later, I was driving to the airport. It’s only a 30-min drive from our place to the airport on normal hours, and since it’s only four in the morning, I got there sooner.

Source: kikomeister.blogspot.com

The plan was to first drop his things off at home, and then drive to the nearest 24-hour fast-food joint for breakfast. As usual, Miggy requested that we go to Jollibee for his dose of Palabok Fiesta. For your information, in the three occasions he came home, he always asked for this on his first day. Palabok Fiesta is not your usual breakfast food, but to our surprise, he was served such at six in the morning.

I had no plans of skipping work that day, but due to lack of sleep, I gave in to his plead to at least take a nap before heading out. Three hours later, I was sending my colleague a message, letting her know that I’m on my way to the office. My friends at work were surprised to see me when they expected me to be on-leave that day. I told them I couldn’t waste my very few leave days, so I settled for a half-day shift at work.

Four hours later, I picked Miggy up at their house, and headed home. Remember my brother who caught dengue fever about the same time I got sick? Well, he woke up that morning flared up with rashes all over his arms and back, and this freaked my mother out, so she asked Miggy and I to take my brother to the hospital for his third blood test. Mom also instructed that we have him seen by the doctor that same day, too, leaving us with no choice. My brother’s blood test result was satisfactory, but the doctor wanted to be sure he’s out of danger, so he requested, yet again, another blood test the following day.

It was only half past five when we left the facility, so we decided to kill time at my brother’s favorite milk tea shop, Tea Talk. Clearly, my brother found a good excuse to indulge himself with his favorite milk tea drink. We sat there for hours talking, Miggy telling tales of his crazy childhood, until we all decided to transfer to a nearby restaurant for dinner.

Our First [Crappy] Photo Together [Since October 2011]

My body eventually gave up on my lack of decent sleep, so at nine o’clock, I called it a day. When I woke up the next morning, everything was a blur. It’s only been a few days, and I already feel so exhausted.

Hooray for the last work day for 2012! Sleep, I’m coming for you!

P.S. In case you’re wondering, my fiancé’s stay is so far uneventful. We haven’t really gotten our hands on the major wedding preparations because I didn’t take my vacation leave right away and the holidays make everyone crazy, not excluding ourselves for obvious reasons.

You may have read my post earlier about my brother and I getting sick over the weekend. I’m feeling better, while my brother has been diagnosed with dengue fever. My mother told me about this before I got off from work, so I was worried about his condition. The thought of my helpless brother and anxious parents consumed me the entire 45-minute drive home. With that in mind, how would you feel coming home to a huge utility truck parked right in front of your driveway? I was like, YOU HAVE GOT TO BE KIDDING ME.

I knew there was no one home to open the gates for me, so when I got out of my car to do so, our neighbor from across the street walked right up to me. She told me that it’s impossible for me to get in with that vehicle blocking our driveway. Yeah, I can see that.

Apparently, this [God-forbid] annoying neighbor of ours are hosting a party. You see, that’s the problem. We don’t really care if they’re hosting a birthday party or a lame beauty pageant, but they need to learn to be sensitive to the people around them. I cannot emphasize this enough because this neighbor of ours is beyond imaginable. Here are the reasons why:

  1. They think their property extends to about four to five houses away from theirs, thus hosting a party would mean that their guests are entitled to park their vehicles anywhere they seem fit, regardless if they’re blocking someone else’s driveway
  2. Granting that one of their children’s house is located about four to five houses away from theirs, this doesn’t give them the prerogative to act all too bossy as if they own the whole stretch of our street. Before you even begin to speak, find all of your vehicles their own parking space, for Pete’s sake!
  3. SERIOUSLY, DO YOU HAVE TO USE A SOUND SYSTEM CONNECTED FROM YOUR HOUSE TO YOUR SON’S? NO ONE GIVES A DAMN ABOUT YOUR STUPID BUSINESS!

I don’t really want to plague my site with nonsense rants like this, but I’m just so pissed right now I want to let it out.

I abhor people who are so full of themselves. I hate them with a passion.

“I’m burning.”

It was the first thing I said to my brother when I got home from work on Friday evening. That brother of mine is not much of talker, but when he looked at me with genuine concern, the gesture kind of gave him away.

I remember waking up that morning feeling tired. It was as if I went swimming the night before, making my arms and back sore. It’s Friday, so I thought I’d run on autopilot, and go through my usual daily routine. The last work day of the week meant “dress-down day”. We are allowed to report to work in t-shirt, jeans, and rubber sneakers. Because I was feeling under the weather that morning, I settled for a yellow collared shirt and pair of black cropped denims. I was supposed to wear my old (and filthy) low-cut Chucks, but I left them by our back door. I was lucky that I had one of my brown ballet flats in the car to complete my lame outfit.

As usual, an hour or so after most of my breakfast buddies come in, we took our early break. When we return, the entire production floor is well-ventilated; so much that you would oftentimes think one will eventually freeze to death. Employees are not allowed to tweak the settings of the air-conditioning system, so it’s either you find someone to do this or die of hypothermia. Mind you, my only weapon was a Pashmina shawl.

My day at work was a drag. I was out of focus the entire time because I was cursing the coldness under my breath. I had to stop altogether about twenty minutes before my shift ends; I couldn’t take it any longer.

I was worried about driving myself home just as I always do whenever I’m this sick. It’s one of those times I wish I had a driver or at least someone to drive for me instead. By God’s grace, I reached home in one piece, but I almost crawled my way into our  house.

I checked my temperature right away. At 5:45PM, my temperature read 39.5˚C. Okay, that wasn’t a good sign. I asked my brother to boil me some water while I prepare my early dinner. It’s a good thing that Mom had cooked dinner before she left that afternoon, so we can take our meal whenever we like. When I’m done, I decided to take a warm bath. I mixed ethyl alcohol into my pail of water; something my mother does whenever one of us is sick. It is believed to potentially reduce body temperature. I wore the warmest pieces of sleepwear in my drawer, added a pair of thick socks and a hoodie jacket to complete my wardrobe. I took a tab of Bioflu, and buried myself under the covers. I had my alarm set every hour so I could check my temperature. This is the graph of my readings:

My temperature reading from Friday night (07 Dec 2012) to Saturday morning (08 Dec 2012)

My temperature reading from Friday night (07 Dec 2012) to Saturday morning (08 Dec 2012)

I don’t remember what time it was when my mother came into my room to check on me, but I know she did because I felt the back of her hand in my forehead.

The next day, my fever still hasn’t lowered to normal reading, but I was hungry. I tried to get up, and helped myself downstairs. My youngest brother was already awake, getting ready for school. I was almost finish with my breakfast when I heard him tell Mom that my other brother’s sick, too. Oh, no. I wondered how he contracted my disease when I didn’t even have colds and cough, so my illness wasn’t exactly viral. In fact, I had the impression that I was suffering from mild UTI symptoms which justify the soreness of my lower back.

It was one of those rare moments when two of us siblings are sick, so it must be hard for my parents and youngest brother to take turns in looking after my brother and I. We were both isolated in our respective rooms as if we were admitted to the hospital. I think my fever finally broke on Sunday morning while my brother remains febrile this morning when I left for work. He is the least sickly among us three, so I’m very much convinced that Mom is more worried of him that me. I mean, come on, I was able to take care of myself what with all the energy left of me on Friday night.

I’m lucky, I have the entire weekend to recuperate; otherwise, I won’t be able to come to work today. I hope my brother gets better soon especially when Mom’s alone to look after him while everyone else is either at work or in school. *sigh*

Added on 10 December 2012 (1627H): My mother just sent me an SMS, telling me that she decided to bring my brother to the hospital this afternoon. He had rashes all over his body, and is suspected for having dengue fever. :(

Added on 10 December 2012 (2027H): I received a call from Mom saying that my brother’s blood test results were positive for dengue fever. They didn’t have to perform the tourniquet test on him because rashes were all over his arms and back—one of the common symptoms of dengue fever.

It’s a good thing, however, that the Revised Dengue Clinical Management Guidelines of the Department of Health includes a new way of identifying whether one does have dengue fever. The integration of Dengue NS1 Antigen Test or Dengue IgM Antibody Test was expected to support any other laboratory test results.

Say, in the case of my brother whose body temperature has not lowered in 48 hours. In this phase, his platelet count is expected to drop; however, to the doctor’s surprise, my brother’s CBC results remain normal. Had the revised guidelines not been implemented, they would have sent him home and rule out these symptoms of dengue fever.

Do you remember what it’s like when you were a teenager? How did you cope with society during these so-called awkward coming of age? Back then, did it matter to which you crowd you belong to? Today, I will share with you my thoughts on the books I’ve read under the Young Adult category. These books have one thing in common: the main characters are mostly seventeen years old.

To be fair, I will give a glimpse of my teenage years. According to my mother, I was a rebellious child back in the day. No, I wasn’t the kind who got himself into trouble involving alcohol and drugs. I never even tried to smoke, not even a single drag from a cigarette. Mom said that my kind of insurgence was in the form of doing things they won’t generally approve of at the time. One of which was the infamous situation I got myself into several years ago. My parents gave me a fair share of disciplinary actions then. The most common of which was grounding me indefinitely—confiscating my mobile phone and not allowing me to go out with friends (like I was the kind who went out with friends on a regular basis).

My parents, most especially my mother, almost gave up on me at one point when they no longer know what to do with me. There was even a time when they wrote me a heart-felt letter, pouring out their frustrations on me as if it were their only hope of getting through what’s in my head. I don’t know when this exactly happened, but I eventually came to my senses. It was only then that I realized how stupid most of choices were when all I ever thought of was myself: anything and everything to my advantage. I didn’t really care how my actions will affect the people around me, for as long as I get what I want. Sooner or later, I outgrew this phase in my life as it was getting old.

Art Geeks and Prom Queens
by Alyson Noël
Ratings: 
★★☆☆☆

Judging by its title (not necessarily its cover), you will have a hint of what this book is all about. The story is about how the life of main character, Rio Jones, changed the moment her family moved across the country, to a new city that’s completely foreign to her.

Rio is the only daughter of Griffin Jones and Jahne Jones (née Jones). Her father is a reputable lawyer who spends most of his days anywhere but their home because of the very demanding nature of his job. Rio’s mother, on the other hand, is a former model. Her contemporaries were Naomi Campbell, Claudia Schiffer, and Cindy Crawford to name a few.

Rio was born with a silver spoon. She came from a well-off family, thus allowing her to study at only the finest school in town. They used to live in Manhattan, New York before moving to the West Coast. Rio had a pretty decent life back then. Never did she got into trouble with best friends, Paige and Hud. She fell into the category of losers when she was everything but cool.

All this (and more) changed when she transferred to a new school in the middle of the semester. To her disbelief, her first ever violation (and detention) happened on her first day of school.

I had the impression that this book was like the Mean Girls movie, and I was right. Although everything was expected, from the conflict to the climax to the resolution, I still finished the book. I didn’t really find anything unusual in the story, so I’m giving two stars for the effort. I guess a typical teenager would have enjoyed this more than I did.

Anna and the French Kiss
by Stephanie Perkins
Ratings: 
★★★★

Anna Oliphant was exiled to Paris, France by her parents (her father to be exact) with the impression that sending her to the School of America in Paris will give her better education that finishing high school in Atlanta, Georgia. Anna’s father, James Ashley, was an instant best-selling author whose novels worked around two people falling in love, and then eventually one has to die from a terminal illness. His works became movie adaptations, too, thus putting him up on the spotlight. Anna’s parents were divorced, and she has antagonized his father since God-knows-when, but she loves her mother and younger brother the most.

Anna loathed the thought of being away from her family on school days, and she’s lived a slightly miserable life during her first few days in school. Foreign country, foreign school, and foreign language—they don’t make sense to her. Anna met her first friend, Meredith, on the day her parents had left her in the dormitory. She was bawling her eyes out when Meredith invited her to her room for a cup of hot chocolate. Since then, they have been inseparable until Étienne St. Clair came into the picture. The two got along well instantly, making them the best of friends eventually.

Now the conflict cropped up when Anna and Étienne developed feelings for each other, but the latter was still in a relationship with Ellie at that time. To make matters even worse, Étienne fell in a situation involving his mother that he completely has no control of. Not to mention his father who was beyond being helpful with the condition their family are suffering from. Anna, on the other hand, fell out of friendship with her long-time best friend, Bridge, who accidentally fell in love with Toph, the guy Anna had feelings for.

Okay, so what do I feel about this story? I honestly think it’s a refreshing read. I didn’t imagine I’d actually like its plot at all. It may be sound so common to most people, but it turned out otherwise when I’ve finished the book. I particularly liked how the author was able to pull of the transition from one scene to another without even getting lost. I oftentimes feel that way in most stories, so props to Stephanie Perkins on that note.

I don’t know one person who would not want to go to Paris, and experience first-hand the magnificence and the rich culture of The City of Lights. It’s amazing how the author was able to take me to Paris even in her writing. I did feel like I was in Anna’s shoes, touring around the city of France, talking in their native tongue. I would have told you more about this book, but I’d say this is a fun, light-read that will leave you gushing like a teenager towards the end. Not only did Anna’s experiences in Paris taught her independence, she also learned that home is where the heart is. You may want to take my cue because I’m putting this book in my favorites shelf.

So I’ve been on semi-hiatus for what-felt-like-forever. Yes, it felt like living a day a month in the life of an astronaut. (You know what they say about astronauts and wanting space. You’re smart if you got this inside joke.) Things have been a bit rough; a few bumps here and there, but I am finding myself getting back on track. God sure knows how to shake me up!

Anyway, what have I been up to in the last couple of weeks, you may ask? Well, I had myself semi-disconnected to the world. By this, I mean I’m around, but not quite. Got that? No? Let’s just say I kind of slightly went a different path in my usual daily routine. Incidentally, I had my phone serviced the day after my birthday, thus making me detached from most social networking sites. Funny, I don’t miss it all. Well, except writing/blogging, of course. That’s already a given.

This was my last tweet on 07 Nov 2012.

I took advantage of this by doing things that are deemed more sensible. Instead of back-reading tweets, I started reading books again. I think it’s the most I’ve read since June. I even got myself into reviewing the ones I’ve read. Perhaps you want to check them out here. I have to thank two of my cheerleaders, Micah and Nica, for influencing—and encouraging—me to do these things more often. I really appreciate it, kids!

To add fun to dysfunctional, I had myself engaged to a new workout program/routine. My parents (as well as most relatives and friends) have been coaxing me to quit losing any more weight for they find me a bit too scrawny nowadays, but whatever. I just want to try new things out, okay? There’s not much to worry about, really. Relax.

Okay, now onto the more sensible serious part of this entry. A time away from all the craziness happening around me made me appreciate even the most insignificant things that I’ve been missing. I needed this time-out to clear my head and re-assess my priorities without the help of neither my family nor friends. Basically, I found a good excuse to reflect on life in general. It made me focus on the stuff that actually matter rather than dwell on the negativity that’s been lurking around me lately. There are things that I need to work on like choosing my battles wisely, avoid stressing out on the littlest of things, and many more. So, did it work? I guess it did in a way I cannot even really point my finger at. I just know it did. Perhaps I need to do this more often. You know, a little clutter-cleaning every now and then. It feels refreshing and sort of liberating in the same manner.

Just like the moon, people go through phases in life. I guess it’s time to start anew, and learn to live in the moment because I’m too busy to care about what other people might say.

Have you ever been to a court trial before? If my memory serves me right, I’ve only been to a courthouse once in my life. It was the time when my mother asked if I wanted to join her at one of the court hearings involving our family and an adjacent neighbor on a case of property encroachment. That was more than ten years ago, and we eventually won our case. I don’t remember much about what happened in there, but the experience led me to this conclusion: I abhor courthouses next to morgues.

The book I’m about to give a once-over today has something to do with the law. You see law is not just a word in the dictionary. Rules exist for men to obey; however, to some, breaking them mean more than following them.

http://www.goodreads.com/book/show/2657.To_Kill_a_MockingbirdTo Kill a Mockingbird
by Harper Lee
Ratings: 
★★★★

This novel by Harper Lee may be considered a one-hit wonder, but it’s one that earned the author numerous honorary degrees. To Kill a Mockingbird deals with the issues of racism that were observed by the author as a child in her hometown of Monroeville, Alabama.

How does one write a book review for a work as good as this? No wonder this novel was listed among the Best Novels of the Century. To be honest, I had to read twice (maybe even thrice) the first few pages because the story kicked off with a lot of characters at once. I had to make mental notes of their names, thinking they will be essential in the succeeding parts of the story. It did give me a headache initially, but I got the hang of it as I go on with the story.

The book was divided into two parts. I must say that as you progress with the book, you will find it even more irresistible. The first part mainly illustrates the childhood of the main characters, Jem Finch, Scout Finch, and Dill Harris. How their friendship evolved from their desire to discover the mystery behind Arthur “Boo” Radley to involving in their father’s, perhaps, most controversial trial case. The second part, however, focused mostly on the Mayella Ewell–Tom Robinson case. My favorite part of the story was the court trial scene, thus my introduction to this entry.

I particularly admired how Atticus Finch instilled worthy values to his children without compromising their desire to enjoy their childhood. In his own words, he carefully explained to his children—most especially Scout—how things are in their community. The kids’ exposure to the entire Tom Robinson case opened their eyes to the reality of racism.

In my opinion, racism does not only pertain to the difference between white and colored people. This social stratification exists in most parts of the world. It only boils down to taking a stand on what one deems right and just. We, Filipinos, can well attest to that, but I don’t feel the necessity to elaborate on that here. If you want to know why I gave this book such ratings, I highly recommend that you add this to your to-read list, too.

Simply because we were licked a hundred years before we started is no reason for us not to try to win.

—Harper Lee, To Kill a Mockingbird

“What is it, Tatay?”, I said as I look over my grandfather’s shoulder who seems to be in surveillance by our bay window.

“I’m looking for the little kids. Where are they?”, my grandfather replied, unable to mask his concern.

Since my grandmother died in 1986, Dad’s youngest sister had lived with my grandfather in their family house. Even when my aunt (who also happens to be my godmother by baptism) got married two years after her mother’s death, she never moved out. She could have, but no one would keep her father company when every one of her siblings had settled down, too.

It was Holy Week, about ten or so years ago, when my aunt asked Dad if we could look after Tatay Inong while they were away for the holidays. My grandfather could no longer stand long drives then; and he was old enough to be left alone in their home, so we offered ours for a-few-days stay.

I’ve always been close to Tatay Inong. I wouldn’t say I was his favorite grandchild, but I won’t deny the fact that I did feel this way sometimes, especially on Christmas Day. Every one of his grandchildren would receive money as gifts on this day. After dinner, we queue up in front of our grandfather as he hands out white envelopes to each one of us. Most of my cousins would open it right away, but my brothers and I would wait until we reach home to see how much we’ve received.

“How much did Tatay give you?”, Mom would ask as I hand over the envelope to her.

She would gasp upon seeing that I got more than my brothers (and perhaps my other cousins) had been given. It’s a good thing my brothers were too young then to even know the difference.

I told my mother about that strange exchange my grandfather and I had that morning. Confused, I asked Mom why could Tatay Inong be looking for little children when he’s in a different house.

As if she knew this was coming, she replied, “Your grandfather may be searching for you (and your brothers)”, with a hint of sadness in her eyes.

In 1996, we moved to a new home which takes about two hours travel time from my grandfather’s house. Tatay Inong had this habit of going over our house on weekends to bring food and groceries he bought on his way. On one occasion, however, his unexpected visit left him otherwise surprised because no one was home. Luckily our neighbor saw him and invited him over to their house as he awaits for our arrival. Since then, Dad gave him duplicate copies of our house keys just in case.

According to Mom, my grandfather may have recalled the same time he were in this house, only we were younger. He did not even recognize that we were the same kids he used to take to McDonald’s on a Sunday afternoon. It was our first-hand experience with the onset of his Alzheimer’s disease, and it was heart-breaking.

It was also the first time we’ve seen him in his most stubborn state. He was too weak to come up a flight of stairs, so Dad made him sleep on our couch in the living room. Our room and my parents’ were upstairs, so he was all alone. He had become restless to the point that he tried to climb the stairs to his frustration. It was already two in the morning when Dad decided to set up the airbed in the living room, and requested my brother to sleep beside Tatay Inong only for the night. An hour before sunrise, my grandfather eventually laid down and fell asleep.

Jae and Tatay Inong (April 2007)

Today, four years since my grandfather’s passing, I still remember him to be the most generous and most loving of all my grandparents. Never did I see him lay a finger on his grandchildren nor raised his voice in anger. I will hold on to this wonderful memory the same way he held ours.

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